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The Long and the Short of it

6/27/2013

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Have you ever noticed that weddings seem to be getting shorter?  Short and sweet is what many couples want, and the most guests appreciate it, too.  It’s kinder at outdoor ceremonies where everyone is made to bake in the sun or when restless children are involved. That said, there is also such a thing as too short—which may not be so sweet.  The guests will likely feel shortchanged if the wedding becomes just a blip on the screen.

I have always made it a practice to send couples a script of their ceremony beforehand. This leaves some tinkering room if they want to add or omit a poem or other ceremony segment and to make sure the language reflects their style.  Some couples panic when they get five pages of script, assuming that the wedding is going to be an hour long. I’ve seen them start snipping and cutting until there’s not much left. So I tell them I will do it that short if they really really want me to, but my original script would not translate into a wedding that is nearly as long as they think. 

First of all, I use a large type font so I can easily read it on their big day; that fills more sheets of paper. Secondly, it takes very little time to read through text. Five pages amounts to about ten minutes, tops, even when I speak slowly and deliberately as I will on their big day. If there’s a huge wedding party, the processional can add a bit more time. But even if there’s a long distance to cover and they space out the bridesmaids and groomsmen rather than bunching up, the whole parade rarely lasts longer than two to three minutes.

Candle lightings take a minute or so and sand ceremonies slightly longer, particularly if children or other family members participate. Still, it normally does not amount to more than a couple of extra minutes.  Poetry readings may take a minute or two each. For couples who choose an additional two or three ceremony elements such as a ring warming, presentation of flowers to moms, or a wine ceremony, all told, these will likely add only a few minutes.  In my experience, the entire ceremony from processional through recessional rarely exceeds 20 minutes. More often it is 10-15.

What is much more likely to eat up time at a wedding is the waiting beforehand. Uncle So-and-So takes the wrong exit and is retracing his steps on the freeway; or I’ll get everyone lined up and invariably a member of the bridal party will be MIA in the rest room; or the bride has a wardrobe malfunction and/or her hairdo won’t do what she wants. There are lots of reasons why a wedding may take more time than expected, but it won’t be because I’ve gotten longwinded!  I will leave long discourses to the orators and sermons to the preachers.  As a wedding officiant, I vow that my words will be elegant and yet succinct.  I will make the ceremony long enough to convey the meaning and feeling, and short enough to keep everyone awake.


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8/19/2013 09:30:50 pm

Wow!I really loved reading your blog. It was very well written and simple to understand. Unlike additional blogs I have read.

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